An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet,
regardless of time, place, or circumstance.
The thread may stretch or tangle, but it will never break.
Ive always wanted to adopt, as long as I can remember. It just always seemed right to me, to help someone in need, create a family and still be able to make the world a little more like me, without having to give birth. Plus, I always feared the worst- my biological baby was sure to end up an ex-vegan, pro-life evangelical preacher/police chief libertarian. I was never able to shake this, despite constant societal pressures for me to “get married and have babies” (as a woman that was all I was supposed to be interested in). If I had a nickel for every person that told me, “It’s a phase”, or “Wait til you meet the right person”, or “You’ll understand later” I would be a gajillionaire. To be honest, it was really scary, thinking that the thoughts I had were somehow invalid and stalled, I thought I knew who I was. As I get older, Ive learned that my thoughts were worthwhile, and justified. Not now, but later, I do want to adopt children. They won’t look like me (and might not end up being the same species), but one day I will have my own kind of family.
The bottom line for me is, vegan parents don’t always equal vegan children. Look around at all your vegan friends. How many of them had vegan parents? How many of them had uneducated, McDonalds guzzling, “eat the rest of your bologna and mayonnaise sandwich” parents? We aren’t cookie cutters, despite what many (hopeful) people believe. Even if we could create exact duplicates of ourselves, would we really want that?
The quote below is from the comments section of “Go Forth and Multiply! The Case for Vegan Baby Breeding” . While I don’t agree 100%, I feel that it is thought provoking and worth sharing. To read the original post and other comments, click here–
Is going vegan really the best thing you can do for animals?
As a vegan activist, I have always told people that the single best thing we can all do for animals is to go vegan. After some critical thought, even we vegans have to admit that that is not correct. Going vegan is only the second best thing anyone can do to help animals. The single best thing anyone can do to help animals is to not reproduce.
There is no way anyone can completely control what his or her offspring does. Even a vegan who has children cannot guarantee that his or her child will be vegan for his or her entire life. It is even less likely that the grandchild of a vegan will be vegan, and yet more of a remote possibility that a great grandchild of a vegan will be vegan.
If you are vegan and have just one child who is not vegan, you will have countered the positive effects of your entire life of veganism. While it may seem far fetched, I propose that it would be better to eat the Standard American Diet based around animal products for your entire life than it would be to have even one child who is not vegan. It is also important to note that even vegans have a tremendous impact on the Earth and on animals; oil consumption and the resulting pollution, packaging and solid waste production, water and energy consumption, animals killed in crop rotation and harvesting, etc..
If you knew that having a child would result in even one animal being tortured and killed, would you knowingly get pregnant or get someone else pregnant?
While a couple may only have two children, supposedly just replacing themselves, there is no way to control how many children their children will have, and so on. For example: If a couple were to have two children and those children in turn have 3 children each and those children in turn have 3 children each, that couple could claim responsibility for producing 26 offspring in just 3 generations. If all those offspring were to eat today’s Standard American Diet, they would be consuming over 2,600 animals every year or nearly 200,000 animals over their lifetimes.
I have proposed this example or a similar example to every vegan I know who wants to have children and I always get the same reply. For some reason, every vegan is convinced that his or her child will be a perfect vegan angel and that he or she will have some magical control over his or her child and all his or her child’s future offspring. The truth is that there is simply no way to have that much control over your child or future generations.
Many people reply that we are part of nature and part of the planet and have the same right to live on the Earth as other animals. In an ideal world, with much fewer people, living in balance with nature, perhaps that would be the case. But we do not help preserve any natural balance; we do not provide anything that other plants or animals in a natural setting need for survival. Ultimately, the animals and the natural environment would be far better off with fewer or no human inhabitants.
There is a solution for those who care about animals but want to raise children: adoption. By adopting a child, you will not only be giving a needy child a good home, but you will also be able to have a positive influence on his or her life. Not adopting and insisting on having a biological child or children is not only detrimental to a child who needs a good home, it is detrimental to the thousands of animals that may die as a result.
I don’t have all the answers… What I do know for a fact is that if we are vegan and claim to care about animals and the environment, we need to stop breeding, promote adoption, and work to keep others from having children.
If vegans want companion animals, what do we do? We adopt, because we can help another in need and at the same time not contribute to harming animals. Seems to me that philosophy fits pretty well when applied to humans. The babies we adopt are already born so we are not bringing another person into the world, but we are helping one in need.“